Fear Is Real

By Benjamin O'Loughlin 


One of the biggest movie industry flops of the year has something very important to teach us... sort of.

After Earth was built up around one core idea: fear isn't real. We all wish that were true. But it's a deeply flawed utopia at best.

The idea that we can control, suppress, or completely erase our emotions and deep-seated desires has a lot of appeal. Simple fact: emotions make our life very complicated. So when Buddhism or sects like Scientology, which counts Will Smith among its members, offer  us total control over our emotions, many jump at the opportunity.

They'll spend a good chunk of their lives trying to do the impossible. Because fear is real. It's a part of us that we can't control and can't erase. The time and energy wasted when we try to banish our emotions is simply a bad investment - much like After Earth itself.

But that's not bad news. As complicated as emotions make our lives, they're vital. First, because they often push us in the right direction.  Second, because we need the energy and drive they provide. The key isn't suppressing emotions. The key is learning how to channel them.

First: in After Earth, Kitai (Jaden Smith) only triumphs when he learns to destroy his own fear. In this case, fear of a huge six-legged killer alien. The problem? It's extremely healthy to be afraid of killer aliens, and other similar dangers. Fear often keeps us alive.

Second: fear and other high octane emotions like anger are very powerful. They often provide the strength and drive we need to carry out key tasks, like jumping an impossibly high fence with an angry doberman on our heels, or coming back to win what should have been an inevitable defeat on the playing field. In more ordinary conditions, emotions give us the edge we need to overcome bad habits and vices.

Objection: aren't emotions precisely what cause those bad habits in the first place?

It's true that we can't call up or mitigate our emotions at will. They're natural reactions that surface on their own. Natural, but also slightly off-key, small thanks to original sin and the havoc it wreaks  in our hearts. However, that doesn't mean we can't use emotion to fuel our lives and decisions. We just have to learn how.

The key is knowing how to provoke them. Much like flying in Never Never Land, real life emotions depend on thinking happy thoughts. Peter Pan can't fly. But he can think happy thoughts, and that makes him fly. Because emotions are always reactions to good or bad circumstances, the right kind of thoughts, memories and input will call up the emotion we need. The wrong type will summon up more difficulties.

Kitai's father was wrong. Fear is real. And that's fine. We need fear. The key is learning how to use it to stay alive.


Bless me Father, for I ... was Speeding

(Gospel) When you run a red light, and get caught, you get a ticket.

If you speed, and get caught, you get a fine.


The civil system is not perfect. You might get away with it. It might not have been your fault. You can only be fined for external actions. And those fines can be pretty hefty.

God's system is a bit different. You can't get in trouble if it isn't your fault. You ALWAYS get caught. And in God's system, the crime is not only external: "everyone who looks at a woman with lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart."

But there is one special thing about God's system that we all love: The ticket has already been paid! You just have to go into the office and fess up that you were speeding.

"Bless me Father, for I ... was speeding."

The Soles of the Soul

(Gospel) Why is little so huge for God? "One of the least of these commandments." or again "The smallest letter or the smallest part of a letter." You would think bigger would be more important, right?

Reminds me of Mom warning us not to eat even the tiniest nibble of the freshly baked cookies, cooling on the rack for tonight's dinner.

But no, it's not just that - an over-protection of what is important.

Rather, the smaller details are most often those overlooked. To be a man of detail requires therefore more love, not less. To keep those shoes perfectly shined and the soles spotless too shows that the guard protecting the Tomb of the Unknown Soldier at Arlington Cemetery REALLY cares about what he does.

In other words, it's about the heart!



Jesus reminds us today: Whoever lives out even the least of the commandments "will be called greatest in the Kingdom of heaven."

Teacher, Teacher

(Gospel) "He began to teach them..." 

Two things about the Sermon on the Mount jump out at anyone who's used to teaching elementary school.


1) Jesus sits down. That breaks ALL the rules. You can't sit down. You have to walk around. Hold your students' attention. Keep them engaged. Keep the peace. Maybe even mount a preemptive strike before they can start throwing paper airplanes at each other... 

Jesus sits down, because He knows that we need to hear what he has to say so badly that he can count on our attention to the end.

2) Jesus began to teach. At any normal school, the teacher's job ends when school is out. 

Knowing the Beatitudes is one thing. Living them is another. That's when Jesus can truly teach us and help us grow: when we try turn his teachings into real life.

Prayer to the Sacred Heart of Jesus


O my Jesus, you have said: "Truly I say to you, ask and you will receive, seek and you will find, knock and it will be opened to you." Behold I knock, I seek and ask for the grace of ........ (here name your request)

Sacred Heart of Jesus, I place all my trust in you.

O my Jesus, you have said: "Truly I say to you, if you ask anything of the Father in my name, he will give it to you." Behold, in your name, I ask the Father for the grace of ........ (here name your request)

Sacred Heart of Jesus, I place all my trust in you.

O my Jesus, you have said: "Truly I say to you, heaven and earth will pass away but my words will not pass away." Encouraged by your infallible words I now ask for the grace of ........ (here name your request)

Sacred Heart of Jesus, I place all my trust in you.

O Sacred Heart of Jesus, for whom it is impossible not to have compassion on the afflicted, have pity on us miserable sinners and grant us the grace which we ask of you, through the Sorrowful and Immaculate Heart of Mary, your tender Mother and ours. Amen.

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